Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Pressing for Purity

Running for the mark.
Setting the pace.
Reaching the goal!

My Grandma mailed me a very interesting newspaper article with my birthday card a few weeks ago.
It was about two couples in her town. One had been married for 6 months, the other, 65 years.
But they both had one thing in common.
They both decided to put God first in their relationships.
The younger couple has me going back in time. They had saved their first kiss for the wedding day, didn't say "I love you" until they were engaged and started out courting instead of dating.
This is a rare and beautiful thing you will hear of and when I first heard about it I knew that's what I wanted to do.
Not all strive for this.
In fact a growing number of my friends whom I love and care about have fallen into the trap that some boy REALLY loves them but oh they just can't wait and are now reaping the consequences.
I am a very firm believer in saving EVERYTHING for one person.
But what does God say about it?
Flee youthful lusts: In this sinful world this will be a daily activity
Love is patient; WAIT! It's worth every day, month and year times fifty.
Avoid fornication and avoid appearance of evil: Don't be alone with members of the opposite sex- all around good idea. You can't trust them or yourself.
You can wear fifty-five purity rings but until you make that commitment to God to stay pure and make sure you aren't putting yourself in the place to be tempted your purity plan won't work.
And if you have messed up God will always forgive- there is none righteous no not one.

But I'm talking to the girls and boys who haven't messed up yet. They are just starting to be a teen and they think they like someone, they go crazy about this person, commit thy work unto the Lord and thy thoughts shall be established. Focus on your relationship with God, how about your parents, and what about your friends you are neglecting or pushing away because you are so crazy about this "like" person?
So in closing I would like to encourage you and discourage you.

Saving yourself for your husband/wife is the most wonderful gift you could give on this earth- I'm so thankful no one has held my husbands hand but me, no lips have touched his but mine, and when he gives me those melt my heart looks- I know they are all just for me. There is no doubt in my mind that we were meant to be and only by God's grace we are where we are today ( 7 months into marriage WOOHOO!).

I'm sure my friends didn't see being rejected, pregnant, alone, being a single Mom, breaking their family's heart, still a teenager and have been married and divorced.
You only have one life make it count for God's glory- make your story a beautiful one.
Like the old hymn says "Trust and obey for there's no other way to be happy in Jesus but to trust and obey."
I better close before I write a book for I am very passionate about this subject since I have reaped so many blessings and have cried many nights for my friends that I wish I could have made decisions for .


  1. Becky, I love this post. Thank you for walking the walk and having the courage to talk the talk as well. It is NOT a popular message today even in the church (sadly).
    I love you!

  2. Wow maybe you should write a book on it:)
    Thankyou for posting, it is always such an encourgment for me to read!
    God bless!

  3. Thank you for sharing that! I agree with you completely. I wish more people would see the value of purity and waiting and realize that it will bring more joy that having what you want right now.

  4. Thanks a lot for that Bex! What you said was right and I loved it. You painted such a beautiful picture of your love story and I hope and pray that someday I'll be able to have what you have be even as half as lovely as you are. I used to think it was annoying that there were barely any boys my age in our church but now I see it's for the best and my flesh won't be getting me in trouble this way. Yeah, I occasionally have crushes that last for a very long time but thankfully they either live faraway or we're not in the same groups and don't talk to each other and they probably don't know me. I thank the Lord that he has it that way and that he protects me and that it never gets more serious than a long crush. Stupid boys.

    <3 Chasity

    P.S. I know I've been commenting on quite a lot of your older posts but I haven't been on Blogger for awhile and so yeah, I'm making up for it now.

  5. Yah know...writing a book might not be a bad idea...;)